Everyone – musician, artist, accountant, whatever, – every human has been criticized.
I’ve had people call my music shit.
Yes, it hurts. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it has happened. And – yes, it will happen again.
What do I do after? Sometimes, I wallow. I sit there and pity myself and question my passion, dedication to, and love of music. I hate the person who said it and I hate myself for believing them.
One of several things brings me out of this place.
- I comfort myself by looking at music gear online or playing music. It’s silly, but it works.
- I look to my friend, my partner, my Lady for her support and feedback. She has a way of grounding me and bringing me back to my usual hopeful, daydreamer, full-of-wishes, stars-in-my-eyes, believe-and-it-will-happen self. (THANKS, LADY!!!)
3.I Fight an internal battle where I defend myself and argue with a version of whomever said such vicious things that my mind makes up – and, win or lose, I give them the old bird and go about my way. Again, usually with some help from my Lady.
My point is this…
IT DOESN’T MATTER IF SOMEONE SAYS THAT YOU ARE SHITTY AT WHAT YOU DO – IF YOU LOVE IT, KEEP DOING IT!
Note: As long as it is morally okay, hopefully legal, and so on… Don’t hurt other people, don’t hurt yourself, don’t hurt animals… You get the point.
Here’s the thing, the world is full of negative feelings, thoughts, and people. Sometimes those thoughts & feelings are inside us – and sometimes those people are the ones that are closest to us. Other times it is Joe Barfly who drunkenly shouted insults at your bands first show, or Jane Von Hoity-Toity who says your art isn’t art at all at your first gallery showing.
If it’s someone else, then look to your strengths. Look to your passion to get you through it. Look to your friends, your Partner, your fans, your family, chances are that at least one of these people will say something to contest whatever insult was slung your way. Sure, it sounds codependent, but having someone who has your back is a beautiful thing. Don’t rely entirely on it, but use it to help your own inner strength. Don’t forget, you can also look inside – sure, you have that hateful voice in your head – but you have the voice that loves what you do and has faith in you somewhere in there too.
I want to say, to my Lady, to my friends, to my family, to my three fans, to my Self –
Thank you for your love and support. I won’t give up. I don’t want any of you to give up, not now, not ever.